(Когда я встретил Владимира Путина и Трампа в Кремле.)

In front of NATO’s meeting in Brussels Wednesday July 11.

(Перед встречей НАТО в Брюсселе в среду, 11 июля.)

The NATO’s official Symbol

One week ago, I was in Moscow, Russia. I had a tourist visa and joined a group of international tourists in to the museal parts of the Kremlin.

The walls of Kremlin. (from Askideas.com)

Always interested in the construction of buildings, I jumped out of my group. This time to inspect some interesting arch technical details on the walls of a dark and long corridor in the Kremlin. At the end of the corridor, there was a wall, with a small door in it. I opened the door and entered a spectacular hall full of light and gold.

The golden hall of Kremlin. (photo by unknown source)

With the door half open I could just jump back to my sightseeing group after this little expedition I thought. But the door locked itself behind me and I was trapped in this highly lit part of the buildings behind the Kremlin Walls.

When the big doors of pure gold was opened, I recognized who it was. (source: pic-for-2)

Then suddenly two guards opened a big double-door, and a very recognizable person entered through it. It was Vladimir Putin, the Russian President, and after him there was a long chain of people, mostly politicians, Ambassadors and the Russian Prime Minister Medvedjev and last came President Trump with his wife Melania.

And along came prime Minister Medvedev and many invited guests. ( illustr. photo by Klar Tale)

At the end of the procession of celebrities came Donald Trump and his First Lady. (Getty images, via The Hill)

Putin started to greet everyone with a powerful handshake.(Illustration by forum.lowyat.net)

After shaking hands with some ministers, Putin came over to me and asked me who I was. – I represent Norway, I answered, and he looked a bit astonished. Prime Minister Medvedev smiled and nodded, – Norway’s important as our next to the Atlantic neighbour, he said. Then Putin grabbed my arm and guided me into his office for a private prep talk, before his negotiations with Trump.

Putin was very nice but impatient to hear what I had to offer.(illustration photo from: af.sputniknews.com)

– What have you to offer in this escalating armament Norway has got into with NATO and the US, he asked. – I have gathered information that 40.000 American soldiers, are going to train in Norway, very close to our borders this Autumn, he added. Foreign Minister Lavrov looked a bit austere and begged me to answer Putin’s serious question. – Well I said smiling. We have come to a fantastic solution that never occurred to us before.

Both Putin and Lavrov looked at me somewhat puzzled. I slowly walked up to Putin, and whispered in his ear. – We’re going to suggest that you join us in the Atlantic Treaty. – What, he cried out! Do you mean the NATO Alliance? I nodded carefully, afraid that Lavrov would burst into a rage if he didn’t like the idea. Then Putin smiled the broadest smile I ever seen. – That’s a wonderful plan, he said. But we must call it NARTO, The North Atlantic and Russian Treaty Organization.

– What about Stoltenberg? Is he into this plan, he asked. – No problem, I was quick to reply. – I live in his neighbourhood in Oslo, and he comes home from Brussel every weekend, and will accept it if Trump and you agree on it first. Besides he’s a nice guy wanting peace with as much armament he can join into his NATO forces, I added.

Anticipating the reaction of Secretary General Stoltenberg when Trump tells him about our plan.

Then Putin leaned over to Lavrov and discussed some scenarios with this NATO inclusion.

Two very smart guys, Putin and foreign Secretary Lavrov, mentalizing some interesting outcomes of the proposed agreement with NATO.( photo illustr. source: Youtube)

Then they called for Prime Minister Medvedev who until then had entertained the other diplomatic guest in the big reception Hall.

“This can save us from billions of rubels or dollars on the military budgets in the future. I’ve thought of it for a long while” , Putin remarked. ( illustration photo from: Dagbladet.no)

In the meantime I was asked to leave the room and go and talk to Trump about the idea of including Russia into NATO.

The endless but nice corridors of the Kremlin.(source: glazunov.ru)

When I went up to Trump he was puzzled. – Why do they send a psychologist from Norway to me? – I am not insane, he said brusquely. – I want to see Prime Minister Solberg in her own person about this.

I try to inform Trump that she’s on vacation, and that she has not been invited to Moscow either. – My God she’s lucky having a vacation! That’s more than I get!

Prime Minister Solberg on a visit to the Island of Finnøy. ( Photo: Bygdabladet)

– Listen, I said. – We have a proposal for you with a value of unprecedented dimensions to the US. Then I tell Trump about the idea of including Russia’s big army and weapon arsenal into the US Army forces and NATO’s. There is total silence for a moment.

Suddenly Trump cries out: – Do you mean annexing whole Russia to the EU and US? That’s plain fucking war, I tell you, – plain fucking war!

Do they really agree on this insane idea, Trump asks astonished.

– No. no Donald, I continues. – The idea is to include Russia and Russia’s Armed Forces and war machinery into the US’s and NATO’s Forces, as a true and mutual member. Trump scratches his forehead. And then his face opens into a big smile as broad as Putin’s recently. – But that’s wonderful, and exactly what I wanted to propose myself! Imagine how much money we could save by this, he adds.

See statistics of Military Forces and Army strength together with Military costs both on the US’s budget the NATO’s budget and The Russian Military budget, after the article.

– But does Putin accept the idea, he hesitates. I confirm the fact. Informing him that Putin is as concerned with saving money as Trump is. – It’s a gift from heaven to American Economy Trump says.

A gift from heaven or just simple calculation of risks? (Illustr. from CNBC.com)

Then Trump and Putin meet face to face and discusses the matter. They are both very glad and looks happier together than ever.

– Why didn’t we join our forces long ago, Vladimir? (illustr. photo from unknown source)

Why should we fear each other, when we agree on being best friends the US. Nato and Russia? (photo. masaralarabia.com)

After the President’s handshaking Putin summons the Ambassadors politicians, delegates and the Press in the grand Hall of Kremlin. He announces with great triumph the success of the meeting and the Joint Forces of The Republic of Russia with the United States and NATO. He praises Trump and the same does Trump with Putin when Trump enters the podium to give his speech to the audience and the world.

Putin holds a very nice speech filled with gratitude and respect in the great reception Hall of Kremlin.(illustr.photo by Vestnik Kavkaza)

At that time, I am already walking down the same corridor I entered into the inner circle of the Kremlin. I give the small door in the wall a light push, and it opens immediately. Soon I retrieve my sightseeing group, and can hear that the English talking guide tells what an important meeting is going on behind those thick walls behind us.

The walls of Kremlin, Moscow. (Photo Go Tours)

Some people dream about Presidents and politics, others of trips to cities like London or Moscow, or both. Others have sexual dreams or a mixture of problemsolving and sexual dreams. Some have just nightmares.

Believe me or not. My story above from the beautiful Kremlin in Moscow, was exactly the dream I had last night. It was so vivid and interesting, and I woke up sorry for it being just a naive dream.

We dream every night not only in the famous REM phase of the 5 stages of sleep. (photo: hybread.mk)

A scanning of the brains activity when we dream. (Photo: neurologist.com)

We all have dreams, some appear at daytime, as for Martin Luther-King. For the rest of us most of them occur at night.

Yes, contrary to what you may think, everyone dream a lot at night. Statistically we have 4 to 6 dreams every night. (Domhoff The Scientific Study of Dreams (2003).

We don’t remember all our dreams, however. Many of them are forgotten during the night. Even if we wake up from a dream, and recall some interesting parts of it, it may disappear when we get up. Almost like mist in the morning sun. Dreams can be very interesting to interpret. Therefore most clinical Psychologists value dreams as an image-based bridge to our unconscious self.

In some dreams, like the one this story is about, the solution to the problem of escalating armament beetween the East and West, seem so simple. Reality has shown to be much more complex. (see http://www.selvuniverset.com/2016/08/23/if-you-and-i-could-rule-the-world/) Or is it possible to cut right through the difficulties and start a new era?

The Vasilij Cathedral in Kremlin, Moscow. (from trpsavvy.com)

Some Statistics for the overly interested reader.

Directly copied and cited from Memoriabg, translated from Bulgarian by Valentina Tzoneva exclusively for SouthFront:

“The official data for 2016 points that the Russian armed forces numbered 770,000 troops. If we added the National Guard and the Secret Armed Forces to these numbers, it brings the numbers to 1,000,000 troops supported by Russia. On the other side, right next to its borders, the neighbors of Russia have 150,000 troops. All 26 European state-members of NATO maintain an army of 2,000,000 altogether. The USA and Canada together have close to 1,400,000 troops. With this, the regular armed forces of NATO exceed the Russian army by four times.

NATO exceeds Russia in armaments: the American armed forces alone have 13,000 airplanes at their disposal, around 8,800 tanks and 41,000 armored units. To these 75 submarines, 19 aircraft carriers and more than 300 other types of warships are added.

The Americans are world leaders in military technologies. But at the direct border with Russia on the NATO side, things are different. For example, Latvia has three Russian-made tanks.

As per data from Russia, it has at its disposal 4,800 artillery and rocket launchers, 2,870 combat aircraft and 10,720 armored personnel carriers. As per the Global Firepower Index of 2015, the military air forces and other military units have at their disposal over 3,550 airplanes. The marine forces have at their disposal 200 warships and 72 submarines.

As much of the military equipment dates from the Soviet times, it is currently undergoing replacement with new ones, which will be 70% completed by 2020. Trump has proposed $681.1 billion for the year 2019.

From South Front, Analyzes Intelligence. (Weapons in Figures)

Rank	Country	Spending ($ Bn.)	% of GDP	% of World share
	World total	1,739	2.2
1	United States	610.0	3.1	35.0
2	People’s Republic of China^[a]	228.0	1.9	13.0
3	Saudi Arabia^[a][b]	69.4	10	4.0
4	Russia	66.3	4.3	3.8
5	India	63.9	2.5	3.7
6	France	57.8	2.3	3.3
7	United Kingdom	47.2	1.8	2.7
8	Japan	45.4	0.9	2.6
9	Germany	44.3	1.2	2.5
10	South Korea	39.2	2.6	2.3
11	Brazil	29.3	1.4	1.7
12	Italy	29.2	1.7	1.7
13	Australia	27.5	2.0	1.6
14	Canada	20.6	1.3	1.2
15	Turkey	18.2	2.2	1.0

Rank	Country	Spending ($ Bn.)
1	United States	602.8
2	People’s Republic of China	150.5
3	Saudi Arabia	76.7
4	Russia	61.2
5	India	52.5
6	United Kingdom	50.7
7	France	48.6
8	Japan	46.0
9	Germany	41.7
10	South Korea	35.7
11	Brazil	29.4
12	Australia	25.0
13	Italy	22.9
14	Israel	21.6
15	Iraq	19.4

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The sexuality of men, – unspoken aspects.

07/03/2018 janeriwaa

Part og male sculpture by Gustav Vigeland, Frognerparken, Oslo Norway.

Male sexuality, what’s wrong with it?

Reading newspapers, watching news on TV, or following social media, gives you the impression that men’s sexuality is mostly harmful to the world. Not only is it harmful for women of all ages, from puberty until they go with stick or walker. Men’s sexuality is referred to as dangerous and harmful also for toddlers and schoolchildren of both sexes, even dangerous to other men and to defenseless animals.

Dangerous beasts or a blessing to females and the world. (photo from 2chb.net)

Three earlier articles about sex.

Young men having problems with erection.

From time to time I have written about sex on this website. When I wrote about the growing problem of erectile dysfunction in young men, I wanted to appease many of those millions of guys going around with a somewhat too harsh expectation of their viral capacity in bed. Check: http://www.selvuniverset.com/2016/12/02/he-cant-get-it-up/

The fear among young men of being too small for her. (from Penis-Size23.)

Perspectives on female sexuality and liberation.

I have also written about female sexuality in a historical perspective. This was in connection with a certain form of sexual disinterest or frigidity in women related to the way men practice sex with them. By this I wanted to help those women to get a grip of their own bodily sensations before being prematurely defined as satisfying objects of male sexuality. I wanted to help these women to get started on their own way to a more positive body awareness.

By making the women learning to enjoy being inside their own bodies and exploring and experiencing more positive sensations around their pelvic regions. I wanted to increase their wellbeing. This I saw as a prerequisite for entering into satisfying relations with others. Check: http://www.selvuniverset.com/2018/01/16/fed-sex-just-way-done/

Woman, dressed and undressed (photo amateur 1815_243_287-dressed-and-undressed.)

Deviant and derailed sexuality .

I have even written about some forms and mechanisms of derailed sexuality where threats, violence, even murder occurs, and where children are abused. Here I also personally address the perpetrators to take notice of what I write, and to get help with their serious relational problems. I know these persons live very difficult lives, and the more they continue hurting others the deeper they sink mentally and psychologically, not to mention morally. Check: http://www.selvuniverset.com/2016/07/18/from-our-sexual-universe/

“Seduction and rape” ( illustration photo from unknown source)

The present status on men’s sexuality

Today I emphasize that men’s sexuality is largely expressed in a positive, lively, considerate, powerful, and nice way. From this perspective male sexuality is mostly a great enrichment for those persons he shares it with. It is even conceived a blessing for those women who want children.

Dominant or submissive, brutal or empathic, or both? (photo from “Heterosexual men naked”)

But why is so little written about male sexuality nowadays that supports this view. And why is the research on the good aspects of sex and manhood so meager? (In the 50’ies and 60’ies we had at least Alfred Kinsey’s comprehensive work*, and Masters & Johnson’s** laboratory research on sexual responses. *Sexual Behavior in the Human Male. Philadelphia Pa: W.B. Saunders: 1948, and **Masters, W.H.; Johnson, V.E. (1974). #The Pleasure Bond.# Toronto; New York: Bantam Books.)

Modern men as lovers and fathers do not only support their wives or children’s mother in upbringing their offspring. They take active part in the children’s life, change diapers, feed them, play with them, take them to the kindergarten, and show affection to their women too. (illustration photo from unknown source)

Hard to get.

For several weeks I have been looking for articles or books that refer to research on positive male sexuality. But no matter what sexual orientation, I have difficulties in finding material to support the arguments in this article.

There are lots of articles and books that describe the man’s problems with his sexuality, his manhood and his relationships with women. And of course, there are those self-help books on what triggers a man sexually, and what women should not say to their sex partner, boyfriend or man. Likewise there are dozens of books and blogs telling him what he never must tell her, if he wants to avoid her to turn-off.

She seems happy that her husband still feels attracted to her, and he loves her still, even after 15 years of marriage.( pic. from open society, S&P.net)

– Two boys in a school class. The “pars pro toto” example of logical shortcoming.

The possibility that male sexuality is as good, enriching and versatile as female sexuality, is lacking documentation out there. Why? Imagine a class of 30 boys, where your son is one of them. 28 of the boys in this class are easy to handle and relate to by the teacher, they are nice to fellow students and dutiful when it comes to tasks and homework.

But there are two rather outgoing boys in the class. Those two are disturbing the teaching and create concerns among the parents, and often gives the teacher headache and the school’s principal deep concern. Nor do these boys accept the rules of the school, or tolerate boundaries, and often they harass the girls in the neighboring class.

Eventually the class gets a reputation for being quite problematic to manage. The local newspaper who has a nose for problems in the surrounding district writes an article about it that is less than flattering. Then the other boys who actually make up the majority in the class feel themselves undeservedly rated as negative too.

School class of boys in Western UK, where there is a kilt like tradition of school uniforms, as it is in som places in Scotland. (illustration photo from Reuters)

– 2 billion 725 million 115 thousand men over 15 years.

How would you react as a mother or father, that your own son is assumed to be difficult and a problem just because he belongs to this class. There are statistics and phenomena like this that I guess affects the whole impression we have had of male sexuality.

Today, 7 billion 633 million people live on Earth.

As you read this, the population may have increased by hundreds of thousands, but that’s not the point here. Of these 7 billion, 633 million people like you and me are only 2 billion 725 million one hundred fifteen thousand men over 15 years. Of these men, around 6,5% worldwide are inclined to harass women and rape their sexual objects. These mere counts up to 177 million 132 thousand and 4 hundred and 75 men.

The 2 billion 725 million men distributed all over the world. ( I use Photo by NASA distributed by Stock, to illustrate)

Are there so many rapists?

“Oh my God”, “Allah, Allah”, you may think. Are there so many cruel and dreadful men out there? Nevertheless, there are no more dreadful men in the class of men, than the two boys in your sons class who make trouble for the whole class of decent pupils.

The 6,5% statistics, is based on a rape term that includes having pressed, persuaded or forced anyone to be touched, masturbate, or being masturbated, having oral sex, sexual intercourse or anal sex. This definition of rape is a bit wider than the US * (Rape in the United States is defined as “Penetration, no matter how slight, of the vagina or anus with any body part or object, or oral penetration by a sex body or another person, without the consent of the victim. “

From a Scandinavian survey:

Of 9000 Norwegian respondents in high school, reported approximately 5% of the boys and about. 1% of the girls have committed a sexual assault. (Kjellgren 2009)

Enough of this statistics, that never will be able to capture the despair, the fear, the pain and the shame that many rape victims experience for a long time after such an event.

Women praised for their sexuality, men condemned for the same, or the matter passed by silence.

flaccid-penis-by-The-anatomy-of-males.

NB: A man’s genitals are mainly outside his body, and may appear more conspicuous and threatening than it is.

The formerly suppressed female sexuality has gained strong winds in it sails since the 60s and 70s. It has also gained extensive positive reviews. But what about male sexuality? Ally Fogg in The Guardian puts it this way:

Is there anything good to be said about male sexuality? That might seem a daft question. Apparently it brings a lot of pleasure and excitement to the lives of men and women alike, it’s inspired some of the greatest art, music and literature through the ages and has played a fairly substantial role in sustaining our species and populating the planet. Nonetheless you’ll need to search very, very hard to find any positive appraisal of male heterosexuality.” (The Guardian 18 July 2011)

Sexual intimacy including the man’s penetration, by consent. ( copyright. Markiza Nubiles.net)

The modern male.

Being a successful man today you must combine and represent both traditional masculine and feminine values. (from Forskning.no)

– Fascination admiration or just recognition for being a sexual active man.

As for the man’s sexuality, there are plenty of those who admire and are fascinated by him, in an atmosphere almost like “the Beauty and the Beast”. They seem awestruck by his audacity, endurance, strength and power, without necessarily writing articles or going to the press with it.

Behind all the skepticism towards men and men’s sexuality in general, there is also a hidden positive respect for him in most women. Not only for his personality and his physical size, – being tall and dark, small and light, thick or thin, black, or white. Also for his apparently frightening penis, it’s both animal and human qualities, and not least it’s signaling of intense virility and strong desire for the partner.

Anatomical drawing of the man’s sexual organ, and the names and concepts of the different parts of it. Check similar mapping of female genitals on: http://www.selvuniverset.com/2018/01/16/fed-sex-just-way-done/

I do not feel like going to the opposite trap and overestimate, cultivate and adore the masculine sexuality. I have shown examples in previous articles of this happening around the world. (http://www.selvuniverset.com/2016/12/02/he-cant-get-it-up/)

Male’s sexuality is as common, boring, exciting, creative and varied as any woman’s.

He may be more visual and maybe staring more at what he thinks is attractive than a woman would do. And while she may be perceived as more auditive wanting to be vocally praised with love statements more than he manage to live up to, – these differences may also be partly cultural.( see also male sexuality in the same-sex love article:Dignity, respect and recognition.)

The common mature man, as nice and ordinary sexually as can be.

(Photo: Mature.net)

Evolution theorists will probably not agree with this. Here, the man will be perceived as genetic poly gamic while, in an evolutionary perspective, she is perceived as a mono gamic with primary goals to provide a safe home for the children. For him, it is apparent that he is spreading his genes to the greatest number of suitable women he is still scanning with his sharp eye.

This view is in my opinion obsolete in real life too, primarily here in the West, where changed socioeconomic terms make women more capable of managing themselves. Along with higher education among women and their sexual liberation since the 70’s, late child births, the differences between men and women in the sexual area, have become increasingly less.

Nevertheless, the #MeToo campaign shows that inequality in power relations, and major differences in income and influence have been used by older men to gain sexual access to persons they otherwise would have no chance to have intimate relations to. And the conditions for women and war prisoners in war zones are terrible, mainly because of very bad war culture combined with intense stress on the soldiers and the massive use of drugs.

The loving, caring and sexy modern man.

But let’s return to the loving man this article is about. A man who loves his partner or wife, and respects her as an equal partner. He listens to her and what she likes. He tries to satisfy her sexually, the way she prefers and appreciates it. She does not need to fake orgasm. He most often knows how to evoke a reaction in her vulva, that ends with orgasmic culmination. If he is a bit clumsy or shy, however, she might help him on the way, like a benevolent eager teacher.

If they have children, he is also the loving dad who likes to be with the kids, playing with them, preparing them for kindergarten or school , doing homework with them, reading for them and singing evening prayers with them, if they are Christians.

He buys food in the store, tidy up in the house after study or work. He changes diapers on babies, powder their bums, fixes the car or bike when needed, he joins or follows his kids to their football training. He drinks beer with the guys at the pub, and shouts aloud when his football team scores in a football match.

Maybe he returns home a bit drunk, and puts himself in bed close to his woman with an erection. If she’s not ready for sex just then, he respects that, and most probably dozes off beside her. If not he might get out of bed again, not to disturb her.

Perhaps he wants intimacy and sex. But if she is too tired he accepts it. (Illustration from Stock photo)

Then perhaps he walks into the living room where no one is, and venture to curb the urge for sex with a “handjob”, just to get relaxed and ready for sleep. I have to remind female readers that during REM sleep, every 90 minutes, the male get’s an automatic erection even without having a sexual dream. If he is rather pent-up and this reaction is very hard, it can wake him up, making him restless.

Exercising his penis is a hobby men enjoy regularly, even if he has a satisfying sexual relation with his woman or partner. Doctors recommend it as healthy, and as long as it is done in private there’s no harm in it. (Photo is an illustration from NTC)

Quite normal and easygoing.

Most likely this man and father only walks out to the kitchen and grabs a chicken leg from the fridge, on his way to the bathroom. Most likely he ends up in bed close to his lady and falls asleep quite happy with life.

During the week he often takes a shower or bathes naked with his children. They feel safe together with their dad. Seeing him naked is no big deal for his children, and his little son understands that as big as his father he will also become when growing up. The girls are also used to daddy’s naked body, and they never feel it as a threat to their own body, rather on the contrary. They have also seen mother naked and know themselves that one day they also will have breasts like her.

Happy to be a man.

All in all I will say I am glad that I belong to the big class of men in the world today. I am also sometimes proud of myself as a sexual male. I like being a man and I like being inside my body. I also feel happy for many of the changes in the roles of women and men that have occurred during the last forty years.

I am also glad that I can still do typical male activities together with being a caring father and spouse. Sometimes I am even domestic cooking dinner and washing the dishes. No need to shout “hurray” for that any longer. That s how we men are nowadays!

I asked initially what’s wrong with men’s sexuality. What’s wrong with men’s sexuality, is it’s undeserved rumor and understated positive aspects.

Modern family life with active and domestic men. (Photo Hublife.com)

If you have read this article and have corresponding or other interesting views of men and male sexuality, please write a comment. If the website’s comment space is difficult to open, tell me on: janeriwaa@gmail.com, and I will fix it.

And I also promise to change my positive attitude regarding male sexuality, if valid Scientific Research shows I am wrong.

Thank YOU all!

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